“Winning the lottery means having an Ali type in your life. You get adventures, growth in skills, a greater capacity for kindness. You’re more dog, more rainbows, laugh more, skip more and are more inspired”
Thanks to my life guru, Lan Pham for her kind words. Everyone needs friends who describe them so eloquently.
I wanted to enter this world feet first. I swear, if the doctor hadn’t intervened, I would have hit the ground running.
I’ve never really fitted in, it’s not that I’m a rebel, nor am I trying to be difficult or different. I just don’t always…
I have known with complete confidence, I do not want to be a mother, since I was 6 years old. Luckily womanhood does not equal motherhood.
Parenting is hard! I may not be a parent, but I appreciate how tough it is. I have enormous respect and admiration for all you parents out there. I am in awe of your commitment, patience, and diligence.
The thing is, living childfree is also a valid life choice. I endured years of pressure from my ex-mother-in-law who begged me to have a baby. She did not accept my choice. She did not listen…
Was I flirting with him? I don’t think so, but I was enjoying the attention. Until he becomes over-familiar that is, and comes out with that!
We were just 2 colleagues, chilling out and chatting.
“You know Ali, you are almost the full package. You are a good laugh, really sporty, good-looking and intelligent. Such a shame you have small boobs.”
My reaction then, 12 years ago, is very different from what my reaction would be today.
Then, I felt inadequate. His words spat fuel all over the flames of my insecurities. I didn’t choose my body. I didn’t choose…
Hello, I’m Ali and I am on a mission to spread more kindness out into this world.
Kindness doesn’t need to be big, grand gestures. Kindness can simply be slowing down to allow another car to pull out in front of you. It can be offering a shopper behind you, with only a couple of items, to move in front of you in the queue. It can be smiling at a stranger as you walk past them or giving a colleague a compliment.
Do you have time to eat a proper breakfast and let it digest before your morning run? Hell no! Yet, at the same time, we need to fuel ourselves before our runs.
Hands up, before I trained sensibly, I often ran fasted. I now know the dangers of this and I look after my nutrition better than before. I may do 1 run a week fasted, but this is a recovery run. In general, and particularly as a female, I tend to avoid running fasted as recommended by ultra running coach David Roche in this article.
But it isn’t always…
Trail running brings out the best in humanity. There is something primal about sharing trails with other runners. It somehow allows egos to evaporate and basic human kindness to flourish.
I was back in the race scene on Saturday. The first time in almost 2 years. This time I was in a new country and around complete strangers. I breathed deeply to prevent the familiar pre-race feelings of trepidation from escalating into a full-blown panic. I repeated my old mantra to myself “I run because can, I run because I’m healthy, able, and free.”
I run for myself. I race…
What is a friend? To me, a true friend is someone who celebrates our authentic selves. Who raises us up during times of hardship. Someone who jumps in the passenger seat, whooping and wailing, to support us on our adventures. A friend is someone we bear our soul to without fear of judgment. Our genuine friends want the best for us. They make time and space to see us. They do not resent us or indulge in unhealthy comparisons.
“In a friendship, you get to know the spirit of another person and your values coincide.” — Maya Angelou
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