All of this x 100!
The whole "but you don't look depressed" dialogue is also very damaging.
There is no "look". Some people can get out of bed each day and drag themselves to work. Others can't. Depression manifests differently but similarly in people.
Thank you for such a succinct piece about such an important topic.
I hope you feel better after saying good bye to your son. I can't believe how quickly the time has gone that he is already back for a visit. I hope he is enjoying himself!