I completely understand. It's frustrating right? You feel unseen, over ridden and as if you have been drawn into a game of one upmanship.
Have you tried ....
Ha ha ha, I'm only joking. It's shit! I had big indepth chats about this very thing on a weekend away with friends this weekend.
Glad you feel better from having written this down and I hope each time it is read and someone comments you feel listened to and heard.