I think you have hit a nail on a head. Although, I'm sure this will irk many folk. Being childfree I feel I have resisted the red pill option and am wide awake as to what I want and what I don't want. So many people going through the motions without thinking too much about it. Ultimately, I don't feel there is a wrong or a right in having children, I think we must all do what is right for us. But sometimes what we think is right for us is not right for a child.