I think you have made a really interesting point and thank you for adding this.

I think it is one thing finding silver linings for ourselves, it is an entirely different think finding it for other people. For ourselves, we have agency on our thoughts and are responsible for working through things. When we use silver linings for other people it can minimise their feelings.

Thanks for distinguishing the difference.

Also - you are the perfect example of how to engage here on Medium. You followed me and read and engaged with a few stories. This piques my interest and means I read some of yours, get to know you and will be following you back as I like what I read. When someone just follows me I barely notice them and certainly don't click into their profile. I've written about this before and you have nailed it :-)