It scares me how much reproduction is a pre-requisite for some people to care about humanity — My decision not to have children is not an attack on your decision to have children. My eternal wish is that those who want children (and will be good parents) will have them, and those who don’t want them will be respected for this choice. That simple sentence has enormous…

“You wouldn’t understand” is both infantilising and reductive! — Are we all on a quest to be understood? Do you believe that understanding can only be achieved through a shared life experience? Or, can understanding be obtained by recognising that human emotion is universal? Sure, you may not have experience with a specific situation, but your body likely knows…

Please stop attacking, criticizing, and othering the non-parents in this world! — My jaws clenched as I continued reading to the very end. An article entitled Childless-By-Choice Women Are a Big Part of Society’s Deterioration* sent my emotions on a roller coaster ride. It reads like something from Keep Sweet: Pray And Obey. Initially, I felt anger. This anger turned to mild…

Can we please stop asking this damn question! — “We are complete with or without a mate, with or without a child … that decision is ours and ours alone.” — Jennifer Aniston Jennifer Aniston has endured decades, yes, decades of interrogation over her womb! While male actors of her rank are asked questions about their acting ambitions, philanthropic…

Whether you are undecided, already a parent, not yet a parent, childless, or staunchly childfree, there is something for everyone in this evolving curation — Choosing whether to have children is one of the biggest decisions of our lifetime. I recognize this choice is dripping in privilege. Living childfree isn’t clear sailing. Did you hear about the case in India where parents are suing their son for not providing them with grandchildren? It’s bonkers! But…

How the babies not in the womb are the new elephant in the room — Come on, media, stop with your pile-on of the childfree and childless! You’ve made your jibes. Now move on. Last week an article titled “Should we tax the childless?” was published in The Times. It went viral and initiated debates across the world. I particularly enjoyed the 2-hour radio call-in…

I only learned the term in the last few years, have you ever heard of it? — This podcast will blow your mind! And if it doesn’t, I guarantee you a full refund. One sure way to change the meaning of a word is to add “ism” as a suffix. This suffix creates a word representing a practice, philosophy, or system. Let’s look at some “ism” words. …

Is this movie more relevant today than the day it was released? — We think the primary theme of the iconic movie; Dirty Dancing, is that of love, sex, coming of age, and family dynamics. But there’s a stronger message. A message so powerful and pervasive it can afford for the references to be subtle. The movie is all about abortion. Without needing…

Imagine a world where children aren’t placed on pedestals! GASP 🤣 — Sometimes we need to lose ourselves in a fantasy world in order to gain perspective on our own cultures and habits. “The Long Way to a Small Angry Planet” by Becky Chambers, is a clever look at humanity. Chambers creates a complex world. A world in which she encourages us…

Like the discussion in the LGBTQIA+ community, could childfree people be born this way? — I don’t believe we have any more choice in our desire to have children than we do in our sexuality or gender identity. I appreciate this is a bold statement. And of course, we are all different. But hear me out. Let’s explore the idea of choice together. I say…

What we do with our reproductive organs is no one's business. — Imagine a world where everyone who wanted children could have them. And anyone who didn’t want children didn’t have them. In this world, what you do with your reproductive organs is your business, and no one passes judgment in any direction. This same world does not measure people's worth on…

Who even cares about the peculiar childfree? — Not only am I viewed as an anomaly for not wanting children. But, I am ridiculed, and sometimes even shamed, for writing about being childfree. Oh, and many people also think it’s odd that I have a Twitter account specifically dedicated to the childfree choice. “What do you even talk…

What do Pope Francis and Elon Musk have in common? — He’s only gone and said it again! It’s been 7 years since his last verbal attack on the childfree. Yet despite the backlash last time, his remorse is nonexistent. In a general audience at the Vatican, Pope Francis opened his mouth and allowed the world to see his disconnect with…

Parents and people without kids have more in common than we realize — I have known with complete confidence, I do not want to be a mother, since I was 6 years old. Luckily womanhood does not equal motherhood. Parenting is hard! I may not be a parent, but I appreciate how tough it is. I have enormous respect and admiration for all…

Imagine responding to pregnancy news with “you’ll regret that!” — The world is dripping in pronatalism. Every which way I turn, people have babies on the brain. And it’s not enough to have one child, oh no, you must have at least two. As everyone knows the destiny of any only child is to be a sociopath. …

“You don’t need to have experienced motherhood to be any kind of compassionate, self-sacrificing, emotionally literate human being” — How do you know if someone has children? Simple, they will find a way of bringing them into the conversation. This is understandable, parents are proud and often besotted with their little ones. I love seeing people beam with joy when talking about loved ones. I watch from the sidelines…

Why I’d rather be a dad than a mom — If you could choose, would you rather be a dad or a mom? I don’t want to be either. But I know where my preference lies. Some things are a no-brainer. I would be an outstanding dad. I may even win dad of the year. Men and women choose contrasting…

Going against social norms can be scary — “I don’t want children” saying these words aloud for the first time, feels like I am coming out. You may not think it is a big deal. But when we choose a lifestyle that goes against the flow of society. We risk rejection, ridicule, and abandonment. Coming out brings risks…

Love and fulfillment can still be achieved when you are not a Mother —

When friendships take different paths — I miss you. I miss us. I miss what we had and how we were. When you announced your big news, I was simultaneously delighted for you and devastated for myself. Your future was on the path to your version of fulfillment and happiness. I feared it would change us. …