Ultimately it’s all about mutual respect and understanding. Can we be friends? Here’s what I think… It seems no matter what role a woman takes on, she is likely to endure times of feeling isolated, unsupported, and lonely. While I can only speak from the lived experience of being childfree…

There’s a reason Elon Musk is obsessed with your uterus! — Elon Musk’s recent comment about people without children isn’t quite the proclamation he thinks it is. We’ve been down this road before when he suggested we face a population crisis! Elon's agenda is trying to coerce, shame, and manipulate society to reproduce with impunity. And why? Let’s just say he’s…

Compassion is never found in comparison. — Pop quiz, who are more worthy? Mothers or non-mothers? The correct answer is that women can not be defined by their reproductive status and that bearing children is irrelevant to whether someone is a good and virtuous person. If it were this straightforward, no children would ever suffer at the…

Is trauma the reason why some mothers show a lack of warmth toward those who aren’t mothers — A woman’s parental status is instrumental in her friendships and social circles. It shouldn’t matter, and yet it does. I am someone who has chosen not to have children. This is the right choice for me, yet it has had a detrimental impact on my life in many ways. …

Also — enough of this pink is for girls, and blue is for boys nonsense — We will forever be pissing into the wind if we don’t get to the source of the matter. Let me put it another way, sticky plasters are all well and good, but they are temporary and short-lived. If we want robust and longstanding change, we must find the source of…

Regardless of our parental or relationship status, we all need our village — With one click of a button, it was sent. Four years worth of pretzelling herself up and navigating stormy seas. While I can’t always prevent her from going overboard, I can be her lifejacket and keep her afloat until the storm passes. Over these 4 years, she has endured a…

Although if this question were posed to a parent, there would be uproar! — “Some people want kids, some people don’t — a lot of people have kids before they even think about it.” — Seth Rogan In a recent interview on The Diary of a CEO by host Steven Bartlett, Seth Rogan was given the Jennifer Aniston treatment. By this, I mean he…

It scares me how much reproduction is a pre-requisite for some people to care about humanity — My decision not to have children is not an attack on your decision to have children. My eternal wish is that those who want children (and will be good parents) will have them, and those who don’t want them will be respected for this choice. That simple sentence has enormous…

“You wouldn’t understand” is both infantilising and reductive! — Are we all on a quest to be understood? Do you believe that understanding can only be achieved through a shared life experience? Or, can understanding be obtained by recognising that human emotion is universal? Sure, you may not have experience with a specific situation, but your body likely knows…

Please stop attacking, criticizing, and othering the non-parents in this world! — My jaws clenched as I continued reading to the very end. An article entitled Childless-By-Choice Women Are a Big Part of Society’s Deterioration* sent my emotions on a roller coaster ride. It reads like something from Keep Sweet: Pray And Obey. Initially, I felt anger. This anger turned to mild…

Can we please stop asking this damn question! — “We are complete with or without a mate, with or without a child … that decision is ours and ours alone.” — Jennifer Aniston Jennifer Aniston has endured decades, yes, decades of interrogation over her womb! While male actors of her rank are asked questions about their acting ambitions, philanthropic…

Whether you are undecided, already a parent, not yet a parent, childless, or staunchly childfree, there is something for everyone in this evolving curation — Choosing whether to have children is one of the biggest decisions of our lifetime. I recognize this choice is dripping in privilege. Living childfree isn’t clear sailing. Did you hear about the case in India where parents are suing their son for not providing them with grandchildren? It’s bonkers! …

How the babies not in the womb are the new elephant in the room — Come on, media, stop with your pile-on of the childfree and childless! You’ve made your jibes. Now move on. Last week an article titled “Should we tax the childless?” was published in The Times. It went viral and initiated debates across the world. …

I only learned the term in the last few years, have you ever heard of it? — This podcast will blow your mind! And if it doesn’t, I guarantee you a full refund. One sure way to change the meaning of a word is to add “ism” as a suffix. This suffix creates a word representing a practice, philosophy, or system. Let’s look at some “ism” words. …

Is this movie more relevant today than the day it was released? — We think the primary theme of the iconic movie; Dirty Dancing, is that of love, sex, coming of age, and family dynamics. But there’s a stronger message. A message so powerful and pervasive it can afford for the references to be subtle. The movie is all about abortion. Without needing…

Imagine a world where children aren’t placed on pedestals! GASP 🤣 — Sometimes we need to lose ourselves in a fantasy world in order to gain perspective on our own cultures and habits. “The Long Way to a Small Angry Planet” by Becky Chambers, is a clever look at humanity. Chambers creates a complex world. A world in which she encourages us…

Like the discussion in the LGBTQIA+ community, could childfree people be born this way? — I don’t believe we have any more choice in our desire to have children than we do in our sexuality or gender identity. I appreciate this is a bold statement. And of course, we are all different. But hear me out. Let’s explore the idea of choice together. I say…

What we do with our reproductive organs is no one's business. — Imagine a world where everyone who wanted children could have them. And anyone who didn’t want children didn’t have them. In this world, what you do with your reproductive organs is your business, and no one passes judgment in any direction. This same world does not measure people's worth on…

Who even cares about the peculiar childfree? — Not only am I viewed as an anomaly for not wanting children. But, I am ridiculed, and sometimes even shamed, for writing about being childfree. Oh, and many people also think it’s odd that I have a Twitter account specifically dedicated to the childfree choice. “What do you even talk…

What do Pope Francis and Elon Musk have in common? — He’s only gone and said it again! It’s been 7 years since his last verbal attack on the childfree. Yet despite the backlash last time, his remorse is nonexistent. In a general audience at the Vatican, Pope Francis opened his mouth and allowed the world to see his disconnect with…