Nice piece as ever. A wee word of caution for your first point. Estrangements are complex. It’s not as simple as just cutting someone off because they offended you one time. One in 4 families in America have estrangement’s and one in five in the U.K. So instead of being wary of someone who you know is estranged from family try and understand them. Moreover for remember it’s way more common and pervasive than you realise.