Such an honest piece June. I don't think you are alone in these feelings. My friend recently confided in me that she felt the female version of demasculinated ... is there even a word for this - because despite both her and her hubby working - both in good jobs - he insists on doing more around the house than her, because he likes things done in a particular way. So he does 80% of the chores. She knows she is daft to get upset by this, and realises many women would envy her this, but she feels she has no place in her family unit.

Sounds like you have a lovely relationship with you boys!