This may be one of my fav pieces of yours. A great mix of personal expertise and vulnerability with links to a interesting articles and take always.
When people minimise our feelings or compare our experiences with those who have it worse, we feel invalidated.
In her book, The Choice, Dr Edith Eger uses examples of 2 clients, one of whom is upset over something to do with her car, whilst the other is ensuring deep rooted trauma. Dr Eger does not differentiate between the 2. She recognises the impact of the upset on both her clients and does not place them in a hierarchy.
I have a flailing friendship with a girl who regularly compares any woes I have with her on experiences or troubles. It’s ok for me! I’ve got it easy .... the distance between us is growing!