What a powerful essay. A thousand claps. I abhor how society views seperation and divorce as failure. While at the same it holds up couples who have been together for a long time as an example of a succesful couple. But these couples might be miserable and hate each other.

Happiness and authenticity is often found in divorce and separation.

It's complex. And murky. And individual. It's chaotic and full of grief and anxiety.

I believe Divorce should be a hallmark moment. Truely! I send cards to friends who get divorced. Because it's courage. And it should be celebrated because it's a huge step in life and it is a forward step, NOT a backward step as society will try to have you believe. And it is this belief that makes separation so hard and prickled with spiky shame and feelings of failure.

Personally, I think everyone seeking to know themselves better and recognising what brings them happiness and peace and moving toward it is an absolute fucking hero, as this is not easy in this day and age.

All this to say, hang in there. You rock! And whereeverthe river of your life takes you, whether it is back toward your husband or further away - you've got this.